Enab Baladi – Razam al-Sawadi
Every girl dreams of being specific on her wedding day, considering it a unique, once-in-a-lifetime function. This is true for Birivan Ayoub, a fresh Arab woman from the town of Ain al-Arab/Kobani, now residing in Germany.
Birivan and Enab Baladi got married about seven months ago, and she was conscious that due to financial constraints, she would not be able to hold a wedding ceremony as is customary in Syria.
When Birivan agreed to wear a wedding gown at the signing of the marriage contract, Enab Baladi thought it was “very straightforward, without a event.” ” However, she pointed out that her happiness was “indescribable. ”
The dread of dread
For Fatima, the encounter differed from Birivan’s, as the wedding gown did not make a difference to her—in truth, it was a problem, as she put it.
Fatima Kojegit, a Syrian Turkmen person now living in Ankara, married a Turkish gentleman about three years ago and has a two-and-a-half-year-old baby.
Although Fatima, hailing from the land of Aleppo, was not interested in the dress, she considered, as she told Enab Baladi, whether she would regret not wearing a bridal gown, so she decided to “spare herself the probable dread ” and wore it.
Since she wed during the spread of COVID-19, Fatima was unable to hold a wedding ceremony but instead organized a meeting that resembled a home meeting.
Although Fatima thinks that the dress is a girl’s straight, her decision to wear it was more about a psychological factor than just being her straight. She insisted on wearing the gown and did not share her feelings of indifference with people, as she said.
Significant, though dispensable
The dress is an important and beautiful detail, Birivan claims, but it does n’t necessarily mean everything to her. From her perspective, there might be circumstances that require sacrificing some facts.
Before making the comment that wearing a bridal gown is challenging, Birivan resisted saying,” One should not compromise on wearing a wedding gown if the situation permit it.” ”
Fatima, on the other hand, thinks that wearing a wedding gown is a part of wedding customs and traditions, both in Syria and all over the world.
If circumstances permit, one should n’t compromise on getting married.
A fresh Arab woman named Birivan Ayoub who lives in Germany
From her perspective, one should not renounce this marriage ceremony detail, as it may result to various concessions in the future.
A “beautiful” storage
Birivan and Fatima, who spoke to Enab Baladi, confirm the significance of wearing the wedding dress and the “radiance ” it gave them in their wedding photos.
Fatima wondered about her motivation for wearing the clothing, even though she felt uneasy in it during the ceremony and struggled to breathe as a result. Then, looking at the wedding photos, she feels glad that she had worn it.
Fatima feels that the clothing made her look as “the bride” in the wedding images, not just a child at a gathering.
A girl’s “right”
Sarah, a woman from Damascus live in Istanbul, considers the bridal dress one of the most important marriage rites.
Sarah, who is about to getting married, does not see the clothing as a dream, but she refuses to give it up. She insists that the pleasure of the wedding occurs once in a lifetime, as she has stated.
The young twenty-year-old always thinks about the style of the gown, its dimensions, its tone of colour, which should suit her body voice, and other details she will care for because the wife must seem like “the wife of the event, ” as she put it.
Fatima Kojegit finds that the bride gown features a woman’s womanhood; It serves the purpose the woman desires, she said, by aiming to attract attention and look in the most gorgeous form in front of her husband and guests.
Dress features
The styles of wedding dresses vary: some have long sleeves, others third sleeves, and most are sleeveless, in addition to the layout of the chest, neck, and lower region, which are generally soft. Each woman checks the suitability of her figure, skin tone, and level during the selection process by selecting the fabric type and color that best suits the bride’s skin tone.
The situation, individual style, and the wedding site are factors that determine the gown design, according to Birivan. She chose a simple outfit because the wedding contract was signed at home, but she decided against it.
Regarding the style of the dress she wished to wear, Birivan said, “ I did n’t think of a specific style, just that it be simple, shiny, and tight at the bottom, ” and that is how her dress was for the contract signing. Due to time constraints and economic difficulties, she rented a gown for her remarkable photographs.
On the other hand, Fatima’s style differed from Birivan’s in some features; she preferred a completely plain gown, without pearls or glow, long sleeves, and a desire for fabric fabric.
Because of the rush to marry, Fatima could not customize the dress she “imagined, ” since tailoring takes a long time, and it is costly.
Fatima made the decision to go with what was on the business, which was completely different from what she wanted to wear. In the end, she made the decision to wear a bridal gown that, as she described it, has beads around the arms and wraps around the stomach.
Donating the gown
After the ceremony, Birivan considered selling her dress but had no idea how to regret it. After a colleague posted a message on Instagram about her purpose to donate her gown, she was encouraged to give up her gown.
Birivan was forthcoming about her purpose to volunteer her costume as well.
Fatima siad, “There are many who cannot obtain a clothing; How wonderful is it that another woman will experience my happiness that day, ” pointing out that she will not wear her dress once more. Additionally, because of its size, keeping it can get dirty and get worn, which will ultimately cause it to be left behind without any benefit to her or any other child.
Fatima also considered giving her dress away because she did n’t need it, as she previously suggested, especially since the economic climate in which Syria is incited to give it fueled her decision.
Many people are unable to purchase a bridal gown. How great is it that another woman saw my pleasure that day?
Fatima, a Palestinian girl who resides in Turkey
First, Fatima wanted to send her gown to a woman inside Syria, but it proved tricky. She made the decision to volunteer it through one of her friends who is involved in this area.
Enab Baladi observed that extended wedding dresses start at 10,000 Turkish liras on Turkish websites that are known for their clothes sales.
The minimum wage in Turkey rose by 49 % on December 27, 2023, to 17,002 rather than 11,402.
With a 32-dollar exchange rate for the Turkish lira, the minimum wage is equivalent to$ 552. 5 liras, according to the dollar exchange site “döviz. ”
According to the most recent figures released by the Turkish Presidency of Migration Management, Turkey is home to 3,136,353 Palestinian refugees. There are also no statistics on the number of Syria married in Turkey.
According to a study conducted by the Istanbul Metropolitan Municipality ( BB ) Planning Agency ( IPA ), living expenses increased by$ 80 in September 2023. 59 % in August 2023 compared with the same quarter in 2022. 42,593 Turkey liras were the average monthly cost of a family of four in Istanbul.
What do people state?
Ahmad, from Deir Ezzor and residing in Urfa territory, married during the COVID-19 crisis and believes under any circumstances; Given how significant it is to him, he would not have asked his wife to give up her bridal gown.
According to Mustafa Keng, who has been married for ten years before moving to Istanbul, he said he did n’t want to hold a wedding celebration and that the circumstances there at the time did n’t appeal to him. Nevertheless, his wife had another opinion, wanting to wear a dress and have a party. As Mustafa said, it ’s her right, so they agreed, and ended up having the wedding and buying the dress.
According to Mahmoud al-Sourani, the clothing is not very important, and he and his wife decided not to get married or even wear formal attire when they got married five years ago.
Mahmoud, formerly from Hama and presently residing in Istanbul, said the selection to abandon marriage service festivals was his then-fiancée’s demand, “as she did not want us to pay debt that we could live without. ”
Today, years after their marriage, he feels that things between them are good and their decision was correct.