Can I challenge the girl who threw my later friend’s evening gowns?

She informed me that she wanted me to have her selection of proper attire shortly before my girlfriend passed away. I suggested she left them in her bedroom with my name on them even though she offered to send them to me. I assumed it would be inappropriate to discuss the gowns to her husband’s passing at her memorial services. However, the subject came up: My brother-in-law told me that a friend came to their home two weeks after my girl died and, despite his demonstrations, pushed her way inside and took the clothes. He refused to tell me who the criminal was, he wanted to avoid fight. But I have discovered her personality. I do n’t want the dresses back, but I want to let her know how revolting her actions were. Am I bad?

SISTER

Your brother-in-law and you are grieving, which is the part of your story that makes the most sense to me and probably explains its stranger details. I’m sorry you lost. But I would wait to call the woman who has your sister’s dresses — partly out of respect for your brother-in-law, who does n’t want you to contact her, but also because of the nature of grief itself.

How weirdly they may go, despite the fact that I have made and received many sympathy names. Unwanted books, records, and, in one instance, a disgustingly ugly vase were all left in several of them, which I had personally pressed on. I urged a guest I was hardly aware to get her crystal jewellery shortly after her passing. I have no idea why! When we are grieving, we are n’t always thinking straight.

Today, the story of the clothes may have unfolded just as your brother-in-law told it: A companion stormed his home and stole them. But that seems implausible. I would postpone calling the woman until you and your brother-in-law are more like yourselves and can talk about whether anything he said sounded like an invitation to take them because you do n’t want the dresses back. For now, concentrate on the actual damage here: your girlfriend, not her formal wear.

Standing Up to a Bully, and Her Family

My daughter, who was nine years old, was bullied by a group of schoolmates who called her a fool, blocked her from playing with them, and shoved stuff down her jeans. It was a problem. We got her to another university, and she is now thriving. The issue: My sister’s child was one of the jerks. Although it was over, her daughter started bullying at the girls ‘ dance studio late last year. I gave it a heads-up theater employee and companion. After telling me that her daughter had n’t started the bullying, she was” just chiming in,” my friend stopped speaking with me. When I see her, I ignore her. However, we will soon be visiting a dancing opposition that involves sharing hotels and airlines. What if I say to this mother first?